The Big Fat Indian Wedding

Recently I was a part of an Indian Wedding. Those who have been part of any BIG FAT Indian wedding would know exactly what I am just going to say. Many of us have felt this but have never said it. Through the 4-day wedding journey I learnt so much. Constant observation kept me busy and occupied to draw some nice learnings….Though of sharing what I learnt with all….

1. Spending v/s giving

There is no end to what one can spend for a wedding. Especially when its a big fat wedding hosted by the RICH. Fascinated by the generosity of the hosts and the guests on a wedding made me thing is India really a country of the poor? There are so many rich people. And if only they could all just give a little bit to ones less fortunate, this world could be transformed.

2. Food Wasted v/s food donated

Needless to mention, food is an integral part of any wedding and has to be taken care of. As we say in India “Anna Daata Sukhi Bhava” .. “May the giver of food be happy” Every wedding host tries his/ her best to serve the best possible food to surprise guests. Quality is maintained while ensuring the variety too πŸ™‚ My observation told me some heart-sinking things….
During one of the dinners in the wedding, while eating, what I saw hit my heart real hard…tears kept rolling down…Here is what happened…
Every guest was busy piling up his/ her plate with all the food in the menu (over 50 items) .All collected whatever they could from the lavish menu, on to their plates. Mindless and idea-less of their own capacity people just kept taking food, just to realise in the end, that they can not eat so much, finally dumping it all into the waste-bin. With some exceptions like me, most did exactly this “collect and waste” No one noticed there were poor kids waiting outside the wedding reception venue…all hungry and starving for food. These kids were picking up food from the waste bin to fill their stomachs. Do I say more…??!!

3. Stress v/s relaxation

The most coveted period of ones life, his/ her wedding, it is!! The most memorable day of ones life is also his/ her wedding day!! We all want our special day to be full of happy surprises, smiles and happy endings. But what most forget is to sit and take a few mins to relax, to go within and see what is the purpose of all this..its definitely no to stress oneself.
Why not close your eyes, sit and meditate for a while on this busy, most happening day? As Gandhi ji once said “I am so busy today that I will need to meditate twice” Relaxation brings in the much needed energy and charm back into every event.

4. Show-off v/s smiles, happiness & naturalness

Most hosts/ guests feel they want to show or be, on the wedding day, what they are not in real life. Someone who is out of the world – pretty (as if they are any less in real life) The amount of money spend in make-up, clothes, jewelry, shoes, the list is never ending….its unimaginable!!
We are all born unique and naturally beautiful. Smile is the best ornament one can put on. I would say its ok to spend so much on all external things if one realizes that inner beauty is of utmost importance. What you are from inside will make you what you appear to the outer world. Being oneself, being natural make one happy and brings countless smiles around. I did met a few who ever totally natural and themelves, while most were ina fashion-parade race to be what they are not, competing with eachother!! Wake up and realize…who you are!! Divine loves you….the way you are!!

5. Building relationships & not just contacts

Oh! This is funny! Why is everyone trying to be with the rich and famous on a wedding? Relentlessly trying to build contact..with these upper class…(well appearing to be) I dont understand…would it not be better to build relationships and make friends rather than just build contacts? But most just see “Whats in it for me” rather than “what can i give” Its a simple shift in the state of mind! A relaxed calm mind would build relationships, spread smiles, share love and not just be busy building contacts!!

HAPPY WEDDING TIMES TO ALL!!

(Observe the next time you go to a wedding and check for your self which category you fall into)

My choicest blessings to the couple(s) who got married! Thank you for facilitating such amazing learning πŸ™‚

May there be peace, happiness and love!!

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Surprises!!!!!!

We all like surprises…well mostly pleasant ones, not unpleasant ones!!

LIFE is a journey and its full of surprises…with sudden and planned coincidences πŸ™‚

Heard someone say, surprises r also planned and my mind rolled into a series of thoughts…which makes me write this blog post after such a long break πŸ™‚

We choose to think they r surprises…but some1 has planned it for us….
We feel so happy to get surprises…while some1 has taken pains, made sacrifices for our smiles….
We usually r at the receiving end, while there is always some1 at the giving end…
And we thoroughly enjoy these surprises…they make us so excited…enthusiastic and happy…

Let’s reverse rolls…and start giving surprises…let’s make some1s day…every day….

Another opportunity!!

This happened to me! πŸ™‚

Last few weeks, I have been associated with National Association for Blind(NAB), Bangalore, Karnataka, India.

They invited Art of Living to conduct Yoga/ Meditation workshops for their students.

We taught 2 YES courses already for teens. Some more courses to go. Here is my experience through the courses:

They may not see, but still they can see more than me. They can feel and understand better than me. They have an unseen and very powerful sense gifted from the divine.

First day i walk in and they greet me, “Good evening mam!” I was shocked, had not even spoken a word…how come they knew i am a woman? Curiosity led me into this question, and i asked them, “How did you guess I am a lady and not a man?”

They said, “We could hear your bangles.” Wow! this kind of keenness in hearing, and sharpness in observing every sound……i was zapped!!

Then i taught them Yoga, meditation, pranayama, Sudarshan Kriya…we played games…etc…just as I would teach any other teens. And these teens at NAB, impressed me so much. They could grasp so fast, amazing learning abilities and special powers to remember. They are so blessed, that i felt lucky to teach them. Rather learn from them!

Every thing they did, they did it so 100% πŸ™‚ and the best part was…satsangs………..magical satsangs! have never experienced such deep and calming satsangs!!

I am sure you also want to experience all this magic!! Β Here is an opportunity for all those in Bangalore.

We have one more batch for students at NAB in May2013. Please write to me if you are interested in assisting, helping us πŸ™‚ and learning with us!!

If you are not in Bangalore and want to organise workshops for visually blessed kids, please write to me and we will come to your city to do the needful…

Thanking Guruji for this wonderful opportunity!!

Jai Gurudev!!

Happy Women’s Day

Let’s celebrate being a woman! Let’s enjoy every moment of this day!

At the same time let’s not forget that women have always been the best and biggest contributors to the universe!!

As a mother she has contributed, as a grand mother she has contributed, as a daughter she has contributed, as a sister she has contributed, as a wife she has contributed, as a friend she has contributed, as an entrepreneur she has contributed, as a social servant she has contributed! She has contributed to her family and to the society! She has contributed to the existence of every life…. She is an eternal contributor and she will not stop being one even today….

Let’s all contribute to lives of many who need the support from us!

Happy Women’s Day!!

House to home!

Ye tera ghar, ye mera ghar! Humara ghar ye pyara ghar!! πŸ™‚ if u r an Indian u hv definitely heard this song!!

Its a dream for every living being to have their own house πŸ™‚ and the entire life is spend in earning to make this possible. Yet it is impossible for many! I don’t understand, some one works hard, day and night..entire life…just to pay loan instalments till he/ she dies…where is the time to enjoy the house or with the people in the house??

Life is funny!

Houses r build for security, for comfort, for living?? But people spend all day and little more only working…the so called beautiful, all amenities house is only used to sleep…and some times not even for this….strange!!!!

Family makes a home and not walls! People and relatives make a home and not infrastructure!!

I would say its not bad to work hard or wanting to have a house etc…but its important to not loose the moments of love, happiness and peace in life for this!! Is important to spend time with family, doesn’t matter where! πŸ™‚

A simple house that can be called a home!! And a simple family staying there that thinks of not only their comforts but also thinks how to contribute to the planet!! That’s what is a HOME!! And not just a house!!!

Think again…don’t have a herd mentality!! And run behind “sq ft” just be content and start contributing!

Houses are for comfort while… Homes are families!
πŸ™‚

Magic!

Its magical to think about MAGIC and even more magical to write about it πŸ™‚

To some magic is a wonder, to some others it is a shock, to many it is so much fun, to few it is unbelievable, to rare and selected few magic is a way of life!!

Those who got what I said, in the first go… understand the magic and have experienced it time and again!!

I belong to this category, where magic is a way of life πŸ™‚ life is magical and mysterious! The path is magical, the magical love and devotion is a gift and the super-magical GURU is the best blessing on this path of MAGIC! Everything is a happening here, and there are no doer’s, things just happen! Every wish is granted and everything is in abundance. There is no more to ask for, as one gets even before he/ she wishes for πŸ™‚ isn’t this Magic??!! Yes it is, the highest form of magic-miracles!

Life is full of surprises and surprises are full of life πŸ™‚ every moment is empty and yet it is so full…everyday is new and yet it is so ancient…every person you meet first time is a stranger and yet you feel you have known them for ages…every heart is full of love and devotion..and every mind is so connected with other minds…every step you take forward is towards self-progress..and yet it takes you inward…this is Magic!!!!!!!

The Master, The Guru, The Supreme One, The one n only Sri Sri, is the source of all this MAGIC!!!

Lucky all of us, who are born at the right time..and chosen are we, to be on the same time as HE is here, on the planet…to live the MAGIC!

Come experience the Magic!!!

πŸ™‚

The Sound of Silence

Recently I took a self-upgrade and went into a 4-day silence program at Art of Living Ashram, Bangalore..I just loved it!
I love to participate regularly in silence programs and keep the frequency to atleast 2 per year!

This time it took me almost 3yrs since I last did the ‘Advance Meditation Course’ the silence program πŸ™‚ due to super packed and time-pressed course schedules. How do say it in words what silence does? No words….to express…just silence…deep silence…

If you haven’t done it…just do it!!!

Shri Narendra Modi Ji

SRCC k bahar chatra, yuva virodh kar rahe the!!???Kis ka?? Kis vajah se!!??
Baat kuch hajam nahi ho rahi…

Jo raajneta desh ka sab se acha neta hai, lagataar badhauti lane wala neta hai..sab ka shubhchintak hai..uska???!!!
Kya yuva peedhi nahi jaanti ke Shri Narendra Modi Ji ne Gujarat ko kaha se kaha pahucha diya hai???!!!!!!
Socho dosto….aap kis ke saath ho!!??

Aaj Shri Narendra Modi Ji ke shabd sun ne ka mauka mila TV par. SRCC, Delhi ke chatro ko Modi Ji preranaspad baate keh rahe the…yuva dil ki baazi to Modi Ji ne aaj jeet lee hai! Sab ko laga ki Bharat Mata ko aise sudrudh, spasht, krantikari, mazboot aur saral rajneta ki atyant avashyakta hai…har shabd me desh prem, har vakya me matru-bhumi ka sammaan…aur ankho me ek asia sapna liye bol rahe the Modi Ji. Irade mazboot hai, man saaf hai, dil sacha hai, aur sirf baate nahi, pakke vade hai! Kaam bhi zabardast kiya hai Modi Ji ne, avashya prashansaniya hai! Jis tarah Gujarat ko, na keval Bharat ke nakshe par kamyaabi aur bulandi ki unchaiyoo k liye darshaya hai Modi Ji ne, balke vish-bhar me aaj Gujarat ke garv se Bharat Mata ka naam roshan hai!

Agar Bharat ko aage badhna hai to Modi Ji ko PM ban na padega! Ye chunauti bhi unke liye koi badi baat nahi hai! PM ke pad ko agar koi bakhoobi nibha sakta hai to wo sirf aap ho Modi Ji… Aap Desh ke bache se le kar vrudh, business class se le kar aam admi, yuva peedhi..saare logo k priya neta ho..sabhi log…desh ki janata aap ke saath hai Modi Ji! Hume vishwaas hai aap Bharat Mata ko phir se vishwa me sab se acha desh banayenge!

Aage badhi Narendra Modi…hum aapke saath hai!
“Sundar Sunehra Bharat” ab ek sapna hi nahi…jaldi hi aap ke PM ban ne se…ye sapna saakaar hote hue nazaar aa raha hai!!

Shri Narendra Modi Ji

SRCC k bahar chatra, yuva virodh kar rahe the!!???Kis ka?? Kis vajah se!!??
Baat kuch hajam nahi ho rahi…

Jo raajneta desh ka sab se acha neta hai, lagataar badhauti lane wala neta hai..sab ka shubhchintak hai..uska???!!!
Kya yuva peedhi nahi jaanti ke Shri Narendra Modi Ji ne Gujarat ko kaha se kaha pahucha diya hai???!!!!!!
Socho dosto….aap kis ke saath ho!!??

Aaj Shri Narendra Modi Ji ke shabd sun ne ka mauka mila TV par. SRCC, Delhi ke chatro ko Modi Ji preranaspad baate keh rahe the…yuva dil ki baazi to Modi Ji ne aaj jeet lee hai! Sab ko laga ki Bharat Mata ko aise sudrudh, spasht, krantikari, mazboot aur saral rajneta ki atyant avashyakta hai…har shabd me desh prem, har vakya me matru-bhumi ka sammaan…aur ankho me ek asia sapna liye bol rahe the Modi Ji. Irade mazboot hai, man saaf hai, dil sacha hai, aur sirf baate nahi, pakke vade hai! Kaam bhi zabardast kiya hai Modi Ji ne, avashya prashansaniya hai! Jis tarah Gujarat ko, na keval Bharat ke nakshe par kamyaabi aur bulandi ki unchaiyoo k liye darshaya hai Modi Ji ne, balke vish-bhar me aaj Gujarat ke garv se Bharat Mata ka naam roshan hai!

Agar Bharat ko aage badhna hai to Modi Ji ko PM ban na padega! Ye chunauti bhi unke liye koi badi baat nahi hai! PM ke pad ko agar koi bakhoobi nibha sakta hai to wo sirf aap ho Modi Ji… Aap Desh ke bache se le kar vrudh, business class se le kar aam admi, yuva peedhi..saare logo k priya neta ho..sabhi log…desh ki janata aap ke saath hai Modi Ji! Hume vishwaas hai aap Bharat Mata ko phir se vishwa me sab se acha desh banayenge!

Aage badhi Narendra Modi…hum aapke saath hai!
“Sundar Sunehra Bharat” ab ek sapna hi nahi…jaldi hi aap ke PM ban ne se…ye sapna saakaar hote hue nazaar aa raha hai!!

Do you want to be rich? here is the secret!

Hello blogger, my followers, readers and viewers! Have been wanting to write on this topic for a good long time, since there are many ideas connected to this topic that are floating in my head.

So let’s begin with a simple question; how many rich people do you know? Do they have a lot of money? Do they have lavish lifestyles? Big houses? Many cars? Jewellery of all precious kinds?? Do they buy only big brands? International schools thrive on them!!?? Personal fitness experts, personal doctors!!?? Power of money and control of things?? Is media after their lives for interviews? And do they have a big Attitude? Well, well, well! You think, they are surely filthy rich and super powerful???

Middle class people- AAM AADMI-MANGO MAN, on the other hand, have hardly any money, simple lifestyles, not so brand conscious, believe in whatever media shows, they are saving bit-by-bit, all their lives, to buy a small apartment in this lifetime, have little gold saved for kids marriage, car is a dream, health and doctors are an added expense, public transport is a blessing!! Friends, life is a chase behind everything that is needed to survive, for these people!!

And the poorest of all people!!! They have no money to save, whatever they have is begged or earned from hard work, labour work, and is good for that day only! Start at square one next day!! Houses?! they have no houses, probably huts, if not the streets are their homes! How are they alive? The food they beg for, or earn for, is just enough to survive them for the day! They never went to school and so the same is passed on to the next generation!! Kids have no education, no schooling, no transportation, no doctors!! Lifestyle?? Haha, you must be joking!! They have a very unhealthy and sad life! I am sure you must have come across many such people!! Of course you have seen so many of them!! Doesn’t this hit you hard?!!! When you look into the eyes of a child working hard or doing some labours? Ground reality, our country has almost 70% people below poverty line!! Sad isn’t it? Around 20% mango-man-class!! And only approximately 10% are so called RICH!!!

Some of us sit back and blame the government for this!! Yes it is the responsibility of the government for sure, but knowing that our governing bodies hardly care of the poor, and never do anything to help them come out of poverty, its our responsibility to vote them out! Change the governance! Sad facts, aam-aadmi-class votes only around 40% , the so called RICH?? Don’t even guess!! Now who votes? Is this poor, illiterate population! And they are just shown big dreams, given promises, which are never fulfilled!! But they do vote, they take responsibility to vote, in spite of being illiterate they understand voting is important! They are more responsible than most rich and middle-class people!!

Have often seen the rich, wanting to get richer, wealthier, in terms of money, property etc..accumulating more and more! Not wanting to share or give, unless it is for some publicity of their own benefits!! They have small, miserly, stingy hearts, filled with selfishness!! On the other hand have seen the poor, sharing, giving, contributing, helping and caring! Aren’t these our human values?? These are seldom seen in so called rich-class! If a poor man earns Rs. 20 a day, he can easily share with someone less privileged and someone in need! These poor people have big hearts, they are generous and have the power of giving and sharing!! I have myself seen, on streets, a beggar sharing his food with another beggar or even a dog! πŸ™‚

I look at it this way, if one can give from whatever he has, he is RICH! If one only keeps accumulating and never gives, no matter how much money he has, he is POOR, in my eyes!! πŸ™‚

You must have heard this in different places, from different people, several times, “whatever you give, is what will come back to you” , may be not in this lifetime, but surely with interest in some other lifetime!! πŸ™‚ so be a giver more often than being a receiver!

The secret to being RICH πŸ™‚ is to GIVE and not accumulate!!

“RICH ARE THOSE WHO CAN GIVE!”

“Happy Giving!”