Recently I was a part of an Indian Wedding. Those who have been part of any BIG FAT Indian wedding would know exactly what I am just going to say. Many of us have felt this but have never said it. Through the 4-day wedding journey I learnt so much. Constant observation kept me busy and occupied to draw some nice learnings….Though of sharing what I learnt with all….
1. Spending v/s giving
There is no end to what one can spend for a wedding. Especially when its a big fat wedding hosted by the RICH. Fascinated by the generosity of the hosts and the guests on a wedding made me thing is India really a country of the poor? There are so many rich people. And if only they could all just give a little bit to ones less fortunate, this world could be transformed.
2. Food Wasted v/s food donated
Needless to mention, food is an integral part of any wedding and has to be taken care of. As we say in India “Anna Daata Sukhi Bhava” .. “May the giver of food be happy” Every wedding host tries his/ her best to serve the best possible food to surprise guests. Quality is maintained while ensuring the variety too 🙂 My observation told me some heart-sinking things….
During one of the dinners in the wedding, while eating, what I saw hit my heart real hard…tears kept rolling down…Here is what happened…
Every guest was busy piling up his/ her plate with all the food in the menu (over 50 items) .All collected whatever they could from the lavish menu, on to their plates. Mindless and idea-less of their own capacity people just kept taking food, just to realise in the end, that they can not eat so much, finally dumping it all into the waste-bin. With some exceptions like me, most did exactly this “collect and waste” No one noticed there were poor kids waiting outside the wedding reception venue…all hungry and starving for food. These kids were picking up food from the waste bin to fill their stomachs. Do I say more…??!!
3. Stress v/s relaxation
The most coveted period of ones life, his/ her wedding, it is!! The most memorable day of ones life is also his/ her wedding day!! We all want our special day to be full of happy surprises, smiles and happy endings. But what most forget is to sit and take a few mins to relax, to go within and see what is the purpose of all this..its definitely no to stress oneself.
Why not close your eyes, sit and meditate for a while on this busy, most happening day? As Gandhi ji once said “I am so busy today that I will need to meditate twice” Relaxation brings in the much needed energy and charm back into every event.
4. Show-off v/s smiles, happiness & naturalness
Most hosts/ guests feel they want to show or be, on the wedding day, what they are not in real life. Someone who is out of the world – pretty (as if they are any less in real life) The amount of money spend in make-up, clothes, jewelry, shoes, the list is never ending….its unimaginable!!
We are all born unique and naturally beautiful. Smile is the best ornament one can put on. I would say its ok to spend so much on all external things if one realizes that inner beauty is of utmost importance. What you are from inside will make you what you appear to the outer world. Being oneself, being natural make one happy and brings countless smiles around. I did met a few who ever totally natural and themelves, while most were ina fashion-parade race to be what they are not, competing with eachother!! Wake up and realize…who you are!! Divine loves you….the way you are!!
5. Building relationships & not just contacts
Oh! This is funny! Why is everyone trying to be with the rich and famous on a wedding? Relentlessly trying to build contact..with these upper class…(well appearing to be) I dont understand…would it not be better to build relationships and make friends rather than just build contacts? But most just see “Whats in it for me” rather than “what can i give” Its a simple shift in the state of mind! A relaxed calm mind would build relationships, spread smiles, share love and not just be busy building contacts!!
HAPPY WEDDING TIMES TO ALL!!
(Observe the next time you go to a wedding and check for your self which category you fall into)
My choicest blessings to the couple(s) who got married! Thank you for facilitating such amazing learning 🙂
May there be peace, happiness and love!!